Most people perceive any undesirable event in their lives in a negative way. As a rule, we consider undesirable for us the event that does not fit into the our scenario of our life.
Conversely - we take for luck what meets (or exceeds) our expectations for life.
The fact is that our perceptions and expectations of life are strongly influenced by our experiences, and thus are stipulated by our past. It is almost impossible to visualize in detail what you have never experienced, what you do not know exists. In coaching, this is called the "Zone of the Unknown." It is difficult to plan for it, but you can always provide a place for it, and learn and expand from it.
Most often, we realize the ultimate usefulness of an event only after some time. Even if the event seemed absolutely negative at the time. And very often we will never know what we avoided by getting what we got. Perhaps in comparison to that "didn't happen", the event that happened was just a gift. Everything happens with meaning and for good. Either for growth, for experience and understanding of something important, or as a springboard to other events that are important to you.
From this perspective, try to look for the slightest benefit in every event, even and especially in "failures". When we live "inside of the moment", it is quite difficult to be objective and look from afar, without emotion to determine the benefit. However, here's what we can do - don't immediately evaluate negatively, give life a chance to surprise us. Give ourselves a chance to consider positive experiences faster than relegating everything unplanned to the box of bad luck or mistakes of nature. When you keep a good attitude, you begin to think better about the world.
THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT THE WORLD IS THE WAY IT BECOMES FOR YOU.
By changing your attitude to a positive one every day in everything that happens, you will very soon see how generous life is to you. It will also become obvious how much energy you conserve by not worrying, not getting upset, not blaming anyone.
Each event serves as a useful lesson for you, makes you stronger and more experienced, broadens your horizons. Only for this development you can respect all manifestations of the world. While you do not look for the guilty, you look at things clearly and soberly. Take the most valuable things from everything, learn from your mistakes, and your direction keeps on success. So your movement through life is more conscious, responsible and less dependent on others. A means Autonomy. It's not when you have to be alone. It's when it's fine to be around people, and comfortable and complete to be alone.
Whatever happens in your life - remember, that you have a choice: to react negatively and be annoyed, or to look for the beneficial aspects. Don't let life's unpredictability get the best of you - control your manifestations and take as much good as you can carry. It's wiser and more rewarding.